To SHAVE or not to shave?

Personally, I feel that the whole TREND of totally shaving one's pubic region is akin to desiring to be soooooo young,in this agist culture ,obsessed with youth,that we actually want to be children again.. It gets very close.
There's no hygenic reason...does it look "better"? I understand a bikini wax, a trim ...but naked down below,yikes! ,,,,realistically, it looks like a pre-pubescent girl...labia exposed...nothing to prevent friction or a rash(yes, there is actually a REASON why you get it!)...similar to geishas having their feet bound to look like little girls... ..., fetish becomes mainsteam stuff. But, thats just my opinion....
When I ask women "why" they do it, they say"it looks better"( it looks like a child) ,"its cleaner"( not so, and really, how dirty ARE you?),or "my guy likes it" ( guys like whatever they can get).
Cultural pressure to look like everyone else.?or designed to look like a very young girl?
And then, at what point do you stop shaving?
Childbirth? menopause? when you're 80? I mean there is a turn around point where you actually want more hair!
There is NO pubic hair on a old woman.
If I had a guy that insisted on it, I would drop him.
I want my man to want a woman to look like a woman,not a child.
I can only say what makes ME uncomfortable..
I AM discouraged at glorifying shaven pubic areas in woman trying to look like girls.
Strong empowered women do not need to look like little girls.The Goddess is perfectly coifed, as is.
And true Gods appreciate the well kept,neatly trimmed, but biologically active WOMAN.
This is just one more subservient process that we go through to change our bodies.

I went to a wellness expo in Rancho Mirage this past weekend.They were selling a service that "removes and improves cellulite".
Did you know that the word cellulite was INVENTED? It was invented in the 60,s to sell a product that got rid of it, because only if you have something can you get rid of it! And ,girl, they made sure as hell that you want to get rid of the "nasty demon,cellulite!"
I remember as a thin,healthy, young woman struggling for years to rid myself of something that I am SUPPOSED to have!
that something is estrogen.
I have estrogen .
So What is the function of estrogen in the body?
To promote secondary sexual characteristics in women(and men too if you are a man that wants to be a woman).
So what are these characteristics that make us female?
Well, one of them, a very important one,is FAT DEPOSITION,aka,cellulite.
we gain fat stores when we go through puberty so that we can prepare our bodies for baby making.
How ironic is it that breast fat is "good"(large breasts)yet,thigh fat is bad(cellulite)?
In other words, there is no cellulite.It is a made up concept that makes women want to go out and buy stuff to be more "beautiful".
Stay healthy, work out every day ( yes, the newest studies show that we need to work out 1 hour every day),eat less meat, eat more fresh food without packaging,visit the farmers market on wed.morning, and re-train your mind to KNOW that cellulite is a MYTH perpetrated on us by marketing

Art that is OFFENSIVE and The shaving of the pubic area.

what constitutes"offensive"?
I write a blog in the Desert Sun newspaper in my local town.
Sometimes I post the same blog as this one.
Yesterday, I copied this blog regarding "jeans suck" and pasted it in the newspaper blog.
WHOOPS! The photo attached was one taken this past weekend at an art gallery. I had been asked to pose with my middle finger out in front of a Peter Guntz Photo of a naked woman holding up her middle finger,giving the "fuck you" sign.
It was Art within art.I thought it fit the "jeans suck". title.
I didnt really notice that she had a shaved pubic area in the photo. So what?
Its art,its his idea of art. I didnt really like the shaved look but it isnt MY art.
Ok, beyond the question of "what is art?" is the question of "what is offensive?.
many people were offended by the photo in the news blog.
Personally, I feel that the whole TREND of totally shaving one's pubic region is akin to pedophilia. It gets very close.
There's no hygenic reason...does it look "better"? I understand a bikini wax, a trim ...but naked down below,yikes! ,,,,realistically, it looks like a pre-pubescent girl...similar to geishas having their feet bound to look like little girls... ..., fetish becomes mainsteam stuff. But, thats just my opinion....So, what if the girl in the photo was 14?..or 16? would that be offensive? help me out here...when does art cross into tasteless cross into porno cross into pedohilia?
I can only say what makes ME uncomfortable and what makes ME sick.
I was not bothered by the photos at all.I AM discouraged at glorifying shaven pubic areas in woman trying to look like girls.
Strong empowered women do not need to look like little girls.The Goddess is perfectly coifed, as is.
And true Gods appreciate the well kept,neatly trimmed, but biologically active woman.

Jeans suck! Yes, they do!

Arent we done with jeans yet? oh yes, and khaki too.They had a nice run ,becoming the American uniform along with baseball caps(cringe),T shirts(save them for kids summer camp please), and sneakers(they stink ,good for running ,bad for fashion)
I just finished Fashion Week on El Paseo here in the strange land of Palm Desert/Palm Springs.
Night after night, there was an abundance of fabulous.fun creations on the runway. Like minnie mouse and andy warhol colliding.
Or the love child of Stevie Nicks and Tim burton.
My mouth hurt from smiling.
BUT, in the "appropriately" clad audience was mostly Chanel suits and black dresses. The gap between Subtle-classic and Boring-uniform is not too far apart.A beautiful aspect of the show was ,as someone mentioned to me at the after party at Melissa Morgans gallery (which BTW, is crazy ass edgey and fly!),"This was a place where you could be appreciated Dr.Deb, for what you bring to the world", referring to my radical fashion sense. It never occurred to me that, for once ,I was a part of the show, instead of being a sole straggler walking around dressed "funny". yes, it felt good and comfortable to be among creative folks who understand art and the art of fashion.It was home..
so, for all of you that still claim that blue jeans are great,I challenge you to be more fanciful,colorful,bold, outlandish...lets up the fashion, at least in our little part of the world.It doesnt have to cost anything,
Think thrift shops.
Think India! (for color and fabric)
think Victorian!
THINK!!
Create!
explore!
Play in your closet.Shop in your closet.
the one thing I would love to hear eliminated from our language
-scenario-you walk into a store,try something on, and the salesperson says to you"that would look great with jeans"...put your hands over your ears and RUN screaming from the store.
Ok, the challenge is on...

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yes,Im working away on my book and everyday it gets better ,more pure, neater, a tidy little package that tells a story about my journey.Its about using radical fashion to engender interactive experiences with people and the world around you.A world so middle of the road, so drifting to the middle, that only acclaimed artists(lady gaga?) are allowed to break free of the mold.We dress in jeans,sweats, t- shirts,and baseball caps.These are the ACCEPTABLE garments of our modern, bland society.
in our hearts and soul, we are brilliant,creative,passionate souls.
Where has our ingenuity gone?
Why do we wear the khaki and denim uniform of conformity?
And, whose rules are we conforming too?
has fashion,art, and creativity gotten to the lowest point?
Remember the renaissance! the 60's! Remember COLOR! Remember ruffles,pink, tutus, hats!!!
rainbow is the new BLACK!
Together we can start a revolution of creation. We can learn to recycle old clothes, make them new again, add lace, add puffy paint.
Together we can create a world so that when you leave your home and hit the outside, you can be greeted with an abundance of wit,inspiration, happiness, and joy, all in the fashion around you.
Yes, we can do this! We can start a movement to be alive,to become walking works of art, so everywhere you go, is an art gallery and the people are the canvases.
Ahhh...your senses will be so happy.
POSTED BY DR DEB AT 9:53 AM
LABELS: CREATION, FASHION, JOY, RADICAL

we spend most of our lives older!

Yes,I realize it now.Now,that my youth is rapidly being replaced by wisdom.
It began with my physical form,the eyes, I needed reading glasses .Then, the ears kicked out,"what did you say?"I began to repeat.
I don't even remember what it was like to hear well.
Remembering.
I sorta remember what it was like to rip our clothes off in haste to have to make love...
We delude ourselves by being distracted with life and responsibilities.
When its probably best to face the fear (yes,fear) of loss,aging,dying, and go deeper into the feelings.
Real learning happens when we go deeper into the fear.
Truth and the teachings of life are found within the experience of facing fear.
Bravery is being a coward and facing the fear anyway.

headphones that cancel THOUGHTS

We were sitting around the fire last night on the equinox when my hubbie brought out these noise canceling head phones. When you put them on, the sound of the distant train and the fountain in the yard were erased.You could still hear the sounds of our voices speaking. It was amazing. Then it occurred to me,wouldn't it be great to have a pair of THOUGHT canceling head phones for the incessant chatter that goes on in our heads constantly.A device that could instantly quiet your thoughts!
You literally couldn't hear yourself think.
Wow.
Silence.
Quiet.
Peace.
Not just from outer noise, but from the inner conversations that prattle on and on.....

"That takes balls!" or that takes ovaries

Men are great,lets just get that out of the way for all of the male ' woman bashers' that deride us for wanting to have equality.
Who call us"feminists", which,BTW, is a good term!
Remember, you have a woman for a mom...and I have a husband and a son and a dad.
There's nothing wrong with women desiring equal respect,equal pay,and equal esteem.
With that said,I watched a reality show called "Celebrity Fit Club" where a marine sergeant barked at the male contestant,after losing 7 lbs of weight,"That takes balls,man...that takes gonads made out of steel!".
Seriously folks, would he have said that to a woman? Would we have heard him yell "that takes OVARIES,woman!...ovaries made out of steel!"?
No."balls" has come to imply, bravery,guts, strength. We even say it to women.
And,losing weight requires bravery?
Discipline, yes, hard-work and will power,sure...but, bravery?
How about child birth?
What does that take? How about strength,... and guts and bravery? How many guys do you know would pass an 8 lb. cannonball through their body,willingly? Destroy their 'youthful figure' and leak milk for months?
Im sure some would say it takes "balls", but that would be silly,wouldnt it?
Cause only ovaries of steel can supply you with the bravery to do what we do ,on a regular basis,with little validation and less respect -supplying the human race with the ability to continue.
and p.s., yes ,of course we need your swimming cells to germinate, but really, its not the same guys.

Life goes by fast? I THINK NOT!

"Life goes by fast",I totally disagree with this overused and widely accepted cliche. Seriously, who started this rumor?
As a rumor dispeller(I made this word up-that's legal), I'd like to dispel this one.
DAYS can go by fast,especially when you are falling in love,traveling in an exotic destination,or trying to meet a deadline,but,LIFE doesn't speed past.
I hardly remember most of my early childhood because it was so long ago.Same with the early years of my own children-it also seems like a long time has passed since then.
That's because it has, life stretches out behind you and also before you. With this in mind,relax, you can do it tomorrow.For now,chillax...be authentic,true,and grateful...laugh a lot and out loud...and enjoy life to the fullest, because you are here a looooonnnngggg time.

making love vs having sex

for some folks, there may not be a difference.Ive been told that especially with men, there is no separation.
I don't believe this. So here is what I believe,...sex is basic,necessary, and driven...making love is a union of more than just the body, it is a spiritual ,creative, art form that involves a greater level of investment.
The end result but be the same ,but the ultimate intention of making love is to share your SELF with someone else, not just your body.A mingling of body fluids AND ethers. Where all the senses are heightened,touch is intensified, smell is intoxicating, and sight is beautiful.
" Making love" is a gourmet meal of the senses, "having sex" is fast food for the bodily urges.
now, go out and make some love.