3 Essential and Powerful Tools to Not Giving a Fuck.

Pondering Self.

  

It makes me smile to know that, as far as others judging me, I don't give a fuck. 

 This doesn't exclude 'caring' about them, or wanting to know their 'opinion', ...it simply means that I have such massive and hard earned Self-esteem, that I literally don't give a hoot about your opinion of me.

  I understand that we all have opinions based on our culture, upbringing, religion, and personal insecurities about what is and isn't right, or what we should or shouldn't do, ...I understand indoctrination,....clinging to thin threads of the illusion.

Yet, I have gone rogue, rebellious even, to promote radical self acceptance. 

 I love when notable people have ceased to 'give a fuck'. its helps to empower the mainstream into being more deeply authentic.

 By a certain time in life, many people have lost their way and forgotten who they really are.

This creates massive uncertainty and anxiety.

If you want to remember who you really are, go back to your seven year old self,... that's who YOU are.
Meanwhile, one's life has changed,  hormones, surroundings (or maybe not), and the comfortable prison of rules and vague standards you and your environment have created for you.

 I can give advice on finding the path,...as one goes creeping about in the underbrush of their psyche, searching for themselves....turning to therapists, workshops, new age 'gurus', and pharm in hopes of finding the lost soul, using a blurry pair of thick glasses, instead of a razor sharp, high tech GPS navigational system, one that is gifted as we explore natural, powerful, plant-based alternatives for healing... I call them the 'find your soul" app, like your iPhone. 

 I call myself a soul guide to finding the real you, a Sherpa of lost souls.

 That jewel of the authentic soul buried down deep inside of what one may have become, an unrecognizable human, one that drinks to oblivion, has random sex, attaches to someone else who has lost their soul, watches endless TV, feels fomo, the inability to be alone, feelings of loneliness, or takes substances to numb the inability to find that lost nature,... 

 It's this confusion that causes suffering,...being lost, unsure of one's purpose, utter loneliness,  because the 'you of you' is gone.

Perhaps the 'you of you' was stolen in childhood pains, traumas, and suffering.

Perhaps, one willingly gave it away in a codependent or abusive relationship.

Abandonment, abuse, parents that were mentally ill or in a cult,... whatever IT is, it's a sad story, and most everyone has one. 

This is not to diminish one's personal sad story, just simply highlighting the collective nature of our shared suffering and consciousness. 

 I say ...seek the tools available to find the little child lost, ..rise up against the fear of change.

This 'rising up' through fear may be painful.

Yet, rising up through suffering is a great tool,.

 Like a caterpillar, suffering so badly that one is forced to break free of the cocoon into total liberation,... and fly.

Some essential tools for deepening one's relationship with self:

1-Plant based medicines, one may have heard of ayahuasca, ibogaine, toad experiences, peyote, mushrooms, and any and all of the indigenous substances used by tribes and religions around the world for centuries to alleviate suffering in a natural and sacred context. 

All done in an intentional setting.

2-Being within a community of people that support and celebrate one's authentic self, ...instead of a community that seeks to impose strict, and somewhat unspoken, cultural guidelines,.

  (I use religion as an example of a fear based method of controlling the masses- saying what we can do and who we can be...) 

 Although, it may seem scary, it's possible to break away from restraints that cease to celebrate one's

beautiful, healthy Selfness.

3 -Read and listen to the Masters, absorbing words of truth, comfort, and acceptance.

 I'm not referring to the new age texts and workshops that will attempt to corral one's money to gain 'truth and find one's true self', but the age-old Masters, or those that have studied these texts and have rewritten them in a way that modern readers and seekers may comprehend.

May you be blessed and find a bright light that illuminates your path.

much love, and fire,

dr deb